Regardless of budget or resources, some wedding traditions simply need to be scrapped! Here’s one:
A Hudson Valley bride asks: “My mother and I have a disagreement that I hope you can resolve. I really would like to omit wedding favors. For the most part, I find them useless and tacky. I’ve never taken home a party favor that didn’t get tossed in the garbage. It seems that they’re a real waste of money and are ecologically objectionable. Mom disagrees. Who’s right on this one?”
(Our answer on next page)
The Wedding Guru answers: Party favors are a “fluff” item and can be omitted at will — so you’re correct. But Mom’s got reason to object: If carefully chosen, favors can add a nice decorative touch. If you’re concerned about the environment (who isn’t?), you might want to consider other options for favors that are more eco-friendly. Flower pots (filled with a perennial that can be planted in your guests’ gardens, perhaps) is one alternative. Or you could present seed packets that can be planted later. (Ed. note: To make it extra special, tie a ribbon around it and include a handwritten line that reads “May the seeds of love planted today blossom into eternal joy.”) Another idea is to give each guest a scroll made from recycled paper indicating that, in lieu of favors, a contribution has been made to one of your favorite “green” projects or organizations. Any of these favors should satisfy both you and your mother!
Readers, do you have any clever, cost-efficient, or eco-friendly party favor ideas? Jot them in the comments box below.