Everybody likes a challenge, but sometimes it gets the best of us and we need to take a breather. Read on…
Dear Wedding Guru: “I feel like I’m turning into the kind of bride that I never thought I’d be. I sometimes feel myself spinning out of control. Stress is definitely getting the better of me, and I’m beginning to not enjoy the wedding planning that I once looked forward to. Can you share some of your best stress-busters? I promise I’ll try them all!”
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Dear Valley bride: It’d be my pleasure to help you eliminate some of the stress in your wedding planning and get you back to enjoying it!
First, stop. Breathe. Think. Ask yourself, Is it worth getting upset over this particular issue? Keep in mind that not everything needs a reaction (or, at least, an immediate action). Give yourself the time to figure out what to do. And since defensiveness breeds defensiveness, try not to be defensive about your reaction. A cool, calm, and deliberate response is more likely to get the results you want than if you respond in an angry way.
Here’s another way to relieve stress. A therapist-friend of mine told me about a handy trick she advises to some of her clients. Put a rubber band on your wrist; whenever you begin to feel anxious, if unpleasant thoughts pop into your head, or things just don’t go right for the moment, snap the band. That helps to bring you back to the moment. It may sound silly, but it works.
Another good stress reliever? Exercise. Whether you it’s at the gym, at home, or outside, just get moving. A workout brings out endorphins, which helps make you feel better. Of course, you’ll also maintain your trim figure for that gorgeous wedding gown later on!
Readers, do you have any other suggestions? What works for you, wedding jitters or not?