It’s a universal problem: the number of guests to invite to your wedding will expand and expand. You’ll need to be the judge as to where you place the cut off so it doesn’t get out of hand. Unfortunately, eliminating people from your guest list is a difficult task, but it needs to be done — unless you have unlimited funds and a venue that can hold hundreds of people!
A Hudson Valley bride asks: “My office is small. Most of my coworkers have become friends and we often see one another outside the office. There is no doubt that they’ll be invited to my wedding next year. My problem has to do with a coworker who just joined the office: do I have to invite her? On some level, I feel like I’m doing her a favor if I don’t invite her, since she won’t really know anyone and it’ll cost her at least a gift. On the other hand, I don’t want her to feel left out. What should I do?”
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The Wedding Guru says:
You don’t need to invite her. You would be relieving her from buying a gift, and she’d probably feel uncomfortable not knowing anyone. But since you have time before you need to send out your invitations, why don’t you wait to see how your friendship evolves? If you become friends by the time you put together your guest list, you may change your mind. (Just remember to include a plus-one for her spouse or significant other on the invitation.)
If you don’t intend on becoming close (or if you’re still unsure), try to keep the wedding talk down to a minimum in the office so as not to make her feel excluded.