Whatever happened to good taste? The months before the wedding are always fraught with some tension and feelings are often easily hurt. It’s especially important to be considerate of not only your own feelings, but also the feelings of others around you — especially your future spouse. Follow the rules of sensitivity and you’ll be on the right path!
A Hudson Valley groom-to-be asks: “I have no idea what my fiancée is doing and why. She wants to invite several of her ex-boyfriends to our wedding! I can’t believe how disrespectful she’s being to me. I’ve asked her to explain why she’s doing that and how it bothers me; her response is that she wants to show me that she is past those relationships and now she’s devoted only to me. I don’t buy it.”
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The Wedding Guru answers: I’m with you. I think she can find closure in a much better way — one that doesn’t hurt your feelings. It sounds like she’s trying to send a signal to those other men that it really is over. If it hurts you, you need to make it very clear that you are not okay with this. I’ll even go so far to say that, if she still refuses to change her mind, you might want to think about what your future relationship will be like.
Readers, is this good advice? What would you tell our groom?