Years ago, second weddings were unusual — but that’s not the case today. Because so many people get invited to second weddings, new rules of etiquette have developed.
Dear Wedding Guru: “A close friend of mine eloped several weeks ago, so no guests were at the ceremony and there was no reception. Now she’s planning a renewal of vows and a reception for quite a few guests, me included. Do I bring a gift?”
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The Wedding Guru says: Elopements are not unusual — just like it’s not unusual for bridal couples who elope to decide later on to have a “real” ceremony and reception that they can share with friends and family. A gift for a second wedding is optional; for those who sent a gift after the couple’s elopement, another gift is absolutely not necessary. However, in the case you mention, there really isn’t a second wedding, but rather a delayed one. If you didn’t give a gift when they eloped, it would be nice to give one this time!