Tipping is a custom that most of us grow up with. If we get good service (and sometimes even when we don’t), we know that under certain circumstances it’s appropriate to leave a tip. It’s become so much a part of our etiquette over the years that most people wouldn’t ever consider not leaving a tip — and only when service is really bad do we not do so. Things are a bit complicated when tipping becomes expected as opposed to being earned.
Dear Wedding Guru: “When creating our budget, we want to make sure that we include tips — but we’re not sure what’s expected of us. Please help. We don’t want to make a mistake!”
(Our answer on next page)
The Wedding Guru says: The concept of tipping goes way back to its acronym. TIPS means “To Insure Prompt Service,” but we have come a long way from that to where tips are always expected. What’s most important is that you make absolutely sure before the affair that you understand what and how much you’ll be tipping. Here’s a quick rundown:
What you must remember is to make sure that you plan to include tips in your budget; depending on the size of your affair, tipping costs can become quite substantial, easily increasing your costs by hundreds or even thousands of dollars. Also bear in mind that tipping can go by other names such as “gratuities,” “service fee,” or “service charge.” And finally, it appears that although tipping is said to be optional, it has become fairly obvious that it is almost always expected!