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How to Throw an Office Shower (When No One’s Invited to the Actual Wedding)


With time, some traditions become acceptable where once they were not. Especially now that destination weddings are so popular (and expensive settings tend to reduce the number of guests in attendance), we’ll probably see even more changes in etiquette as a result. 

Q: “I’m having a small wedding with a very short guest list. My coworker wants to throw me a shower knowing these people will not be invited to the wedding.  What’s the best way to write the invitation?”

The Wedding Guru says…
Regardless of the reason, it’s poor etiquette to invite people to a shower who aren’t actually invited to the wedding. That said, I know lots of people do it anyway. If you coworker insists, try this wording:

“[Bride]’s wedding will be very small. Instead of attending the wedding, please help us celebrate at a bridal shower for her.

I should add that a BIG thank you is due to the coworker that’s throwing the shower. She must be a good friend to be so selfless!

Got more questions? Write to me at judy@hvmag.com!

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