Dear Mom: Just Buy the @$#*! Dress

The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis fields this week’s wedding questions. Today: Mom wants to save dinero on her dress, but the bride says to splurge!

Even though it’s undeniably the bride’s day, there’s always a fussy person somewhere in there. Of course, one of the nicest things that a bride can do is make sure her attendants and family understand that they’re all important parts of her wedding. Furthermore, she can encourage them to treat themselves well for the occasion.

A mother-of-the-bride asks: “My daughter is getting married and I couldn’t be more delighted! My husband and I are happily — and generously — contributing to the wedding. Because of this (and since I know I’ll wear my gown only once… and I hate the thought of spending money on it), my daughter and my husband are relentless about this one particular expenditure. I really don’t mind skipping on my dress, and I already have a gown I can wear. I think that it’s much more important to spend money on other things. Do you agree?”

Dear mother-of-the-bride: I agree with your daughter and husband. Your daughter’s wedding day is a special one for you, too, so why not treat yourself to something new, fresh, and flattering? Both you and the mother-of-the-groom should buy the best-quality dresses (that you can afford, of course). Luckily, there are so many choices available now that can be worn more than once. Try looking for a dress that you’ll wear to another occasion, like a New Year’s Eve party. It’s pretty clear that both your daughter and your husband will enjoy seeing you in something special — enjoy the fact that your family really cares about you!

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