Creating the guest list might well be the most stressful aspect of a wedding. There are, however, some guidelines other than “follow your heart” when choosing who makes the cut. Read on…
A Hudson Valley bride asks: “I’m sure you’ve been asked this many times. My parents and future in-laws are putting together their guest lists; can you give me some advice about who should be invited to the wedding and how to go about culling the lists?”
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Dear Hudson Valley bride: In the simplest possible terms, the order of priority for your guest list should be immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, and uncles) first. Next are your close friends and the people you’re in contact with on a regular basis. Then come acquaintances, such as the people with whom you work, extended family (e.g., cousins), followed by long distance friends and relatives. At the bottom of the list come the people with whom you do not have regular contact. You can further refine the list once you know how many guests your budget will allow.
My best piece of advice is to try really (really!) hard not to make what should be a pleasant experience into a rift between families. Good luck!