12+ Months Before
- Set a budget.
- Look for and book ceremony and reception sites.
- Pick a wedding date and time, then confirm with major vendors and close family and friends.
- Put together a planning team.
- Choose a theme and color palette.
- Insure your engagement ring.
- Start putting together your guest list.
- Choose your wedding party (and propose to them!).
- Throw an engagement party.
9 Months Before
- Register for gifts.
- Shop for and order your gown.
- Book your caterer, band or DJ, and photographer and/or videographer.
- Meet with florists to determine your floral decor.
- Research and reserve hotel room blocks for out-of-town guests.
- Order stationery.
- Choose an officiant.
- Take engagement photos.
6–8 Months Before
- Make a wedding website.
- Book musicians for your ceremony.
- Order bridesmaids dresses.
- Start planning your honeymoon.
- Send save-the-date cards.
4–6 Months Before
- Arrange for rentals if you need tents, tables, chairs, furniture, etc.
- Attend pre-wedding counseling, if required.
- Shop for wedding rings.
- Shop for the groom’s and groomsmen’s attire.
- Meet with bakers and order your wedding cake.
- Hire wedding-day transportation.
- Have your first dress fitting. Remember to bring the shoes and lingerie you will wear on the big day.
- Plan your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
- Renew passport for your honeymoon, if necessary.
4 Months Before
- Hire a calligrapher for your invitations (your stationer may have someone they recommend or use regularly).
- Book your stylist and try out your wedding-day look.
- Book a makeup artist and do a trial.
- Mail your invitations.
2–3 Months Before
- Attend your shower.
- Write your vows and/or meet with your officiant to discuss the run of the ceremony.
- Purchase gifts for your parents, bridal party, and each other.
- Send your rehearsal invitations.
1 Month Before
- Apply for a marriage license in the town where you will be marrying. Check with the town clerk for necessary information/documents.
- Attend your final gown fitting. Have someone present to learn how to bustle your dress the day of the wedding.
- Check in with your bridal party to make sure they have everything they need.
- Make last-minute adjustments with vendors.
- Create a wedding program to hand out at the ceremony.
- Plan and put together welcome baskets for out-of-town guests.
- Attend bachelor/bachelorette parties.
2 Weeks Before
- Book spa and mani/pedi appointments.
- Review final RSVP list and call any guests who have not responded.
- Put together a shot list for the photographer and videographer, including a list of formal shots and when they will be taken.
- Deliver final song list to your band/DJ, including songs on your “do not play” list.
- Break in your shoes.
1 Week Before
- Give reception site/caterer the final head count, including vendors like the photographer, videographer, and band/DJ to ensure plates will be made for them.
- Supply location manager with a list of requests from other vendors.
- Create reception seating chart.
- Print place and table cards or give to calligrapher.
- Put together a timeline for the day-of (when vendors will arrive, who is doing what) and share with the ceremony- and reception-site managers and vendors.
- Call wedding vendors to confirm details.
- Groom: Get a haircut.
- Start packing for your honeymoon.
2–3 Days Before
- If needed, have your dress pressed or steamed.
- Groom and groomsmen: Go for final fittings and pick up formal wear.
- Give place cards, table cards, favors, menus, etc., to the reception-site manager.
- Call the limousine- or car-rental company to confirm pickup times and locations.
- Deliver welcome baskets to the hotel.
1 Day Before
- Get manicure and pedicure.
- Provide emergency contact information to the vendors.
- Write checks or coordinate with wedding hosts about final balances.
The Night Before
- Bring unity candle, aisle runner, yarmulkes, or other ceremony accessories to site.
- Rehearse the ceremony.
- Give marriage license to the officiant.
- Attend rehearsal dinner.
- Present bridal party with gifts.
- Give wedding bands to the best man and maid of honor.
- Assign a family member or attendant to be an emergency contact person for the ceremony- and reception-site managers and photographer.
Day Of
- Present parents and each other with gifts.
- Make sure to stay hydrated and eat something.
- Tip appropriate vendors.
- Enjoy!
Post–Wedding
- Have someone take your gown for safe keeping and return groom’s attire (if rented).
- Write and send thank-you notes for guests and vendors who were helpful.
- Change your name, if desired. For help with this, sign up for the name-change service at hitchswitch.com.
Related: Your Guide to Bridal Bouquets in the Hudson Valley