Wedding Invitations: Do You Mail Them Even When Guests RSVP "No" to the Save-the-Date Cards?
The Wedding Guru clears up confusion caused when guests RSVP “no” to one thing (but may say “yes” to another)
By Judy Lewis
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The Wedding Guru says: As a rule, invitations are sent to everyone who receives a save-the-date card. Even if they’ve told you that they can’t attend the wedding, an invitation should be sent to close friends and relatives. (However for friends, co-workers, and acquaintances outside your “VIP circle” who have confirmed they aren’t going to attend, you need not send an invitation, because doing so can be interpreted as asking for a wedding gift.)
If someone who originally answered “no” upon receiving a save-the-date card ends up changing his or her plans, by all means do send an invitation — even if the “spot” has been filled by a “B-list” guest. The same goes for someone (not a close family member or friend) who you feel might be insulted if they don’t receive an invitation, even if that person called you with a “no” as a result of your save-the-date. It reflects better on you to cover your tracks and extend an invitation, than to ignore or “forget” someone!
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