Second Marriage and Nothing to Show For It: Should You Register For Gifts for your Second Wedding?
A husband- and wife-to-be contemplate a bridal registry for their second marriages
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Dear Hudson Valley Bride-to-be: There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you and your fiancé setting up a bridal registry! Every guest assumes that being invited to a wedding usually means giving a gift to the newly married couple. Here’s the sticking point: As you compile your guest list, you need to ask yourselves whether you’re inviting the guest because you genuinely want the person to attend your wedding... or just so you can get a gift.
As you begin your new life together, those closest to you will — of course! — be happy to help you build up your “inventory.” That said, do not expand your list with people who are too much outside your circle of friends and family. (Remember, some of these people are not invited to your wedding, just the reception.) If you’re pretty sure your guests will be delighted to share your happiness — whether it’s in the church or at the reception hall — then you’re on safe ground. Be sure to ask yourself how you’d feel if you were invited to only half of a gift-appropriate function. If your motives are honorable, you will not be overstepping the rules of etiquette.