Wedding Traditions: Breaking the Rules and Having a Custom Wedding

Do I always have to wear white? Can I scrap the cake in favor of something a little more fun? One bride wants to break the rules — and it’s perfectly okay

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The Wedding Guru says: You do not have to wear white. You can choose pale pink, blue, and even black (check out more wedding dress dilemmas — and solutions — here). However, if you’re having a very traditional wedding, you may want to think hard about this one.

You absolutely do not have to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Even more adventuresome bridal couples are choosing grooms-maids and brides-men, too.

Your dessert can be as outré as you want it to be. Cupcakes are very popular at the moment. If you want to serve what you like, consider an ice cream sundae bar, milk and cookies, chocolate-dipped fruit, a candy bar — any fun thing you think your guests would enjoy. At a recent wedding I attended, there was a candy bar for the children (but I think the adults enjoyed it even more).

The general rule when veering from traditional customs is to follow your heart. If it feels good, go for it, but remember to keep your guests in mind. Always accommodate, not offend!

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Congratulations — you're involved in a wedding! Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride or hubby-to-be, an attendant or a guest, Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all your need-to-know questions about your nuptials.

Judy Lewis is the founder of, the one-stop resource for services and products, promotions and specials, a Regional Bridal Show schedule, Wed Shop, and links to money-saving and wedding-related Web sites. In her spare time, Judy loves to compose poetry and create collages. She currently resides in Kingston with her husband and business partner, Jon.



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