Wedding Traditions: Giving the Toast (and What to Do When You Can’t Toast)

A bridal couple nixes the traditional toast — but the parents want to speak up

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The Wedding Guru says: I understand your concerns (and your son’s). It’s traditional for the father of the groom to thank the parents of the bride at the reception — but as with most traditions, it’s not etched in stone. If you can’t talk your son into allowing just two short toasts by the fathers of the bride and the groom, I offer this compromise: The groom’s parents traditionally host the rehearsal dinner and, of course, the bride’s parents will attend, so your husband can give his toast at that time. His toast then can be followed by one from the bride’s father and anyone else that the bridal couple asks to speak.

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Congratulations — you're involved in a wedding! Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride or hubby-to-be, an attendant or a guest, Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all your need-to-know questions about your nuptials.

Judy Lewis is the founder of, the one-stop resource for services and products, promotions and specials, a Regional Bridal Show schedule, Wed Shop, and links to money-saving and wedding-related Web sites. In her spare time, Judy loves to compose poetry and create collages. She currently resides in Kingston with her husband and business partner, Jon.



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