Honoring a Loved One: If Dad Passes Away, Who Walks the Bride Down the Aisle?
A caring groom wonders how to memorialize a departed family member — and who will walk his bride down the aisle
This week’s question comes from a groom whose future wife has recently lost her father. His situation raises some important questions about what he can to work with his bride’s feelings on their big day — and who walks her down the aisle.
A Hudson Valley groom asks: “With respect to wedding invitations, usually both of the bride’s parents’ names are included — but her dad recently passed away. What’s the etiquette for proper wording on the invitation? And who walks tmy wife-to-be down the aisle?”
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Dear Hudson Valley groom: According to strict etiquette, the invitation should read from her mother. Some families also include the parents of the groom on the invite. Your fiancée can make mention of her father at one of several other junctures during your ceremony. The “memorial mentions” can involve lighting a candle, a moment of silence, reading a poem, or even a special reading. Whatever makes the bride and her family feel comfortable will be fine.
As far as walking the bride-to-be down the aisle, a close male relative can substitute. An uncle, a brother-in-law, or a cousin would be good choices. Your future bride is fortunate to have a caring life partner. Much good luck to you both!