Wedding Gifts: How to Reject a Traditional Wedding Gift and Accept a Gift of Service
Accepting a wedding gift is rarely a problem (we should all be so lucky!); however, here’s what to do when you want to tell the gift-giver that a traditional gift is not necessary
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The Wedding Guru says: We should all be this lucky! Write your friend a note telling her that you’re delighted she’s creating your ketubah. Make it clear that it’s “more of a gift” than you could ever expect. Because of the nature of this particular gift, she’ll need to give it to you well before your ceremony. When she does, you can reiterate that you cannot imagine a better, more meaningful present.
If she still comes to your wedding with a gift (and you can speak to her directly), decline graciously — say something like, “No way, you have already given us an amazing gift!” If you don’t actually get to see her, you can write or call her to explain why you cannot accept her gift. If she insists, accept it with an effusive thank-you! Just remember that, when the time comes, be as generous to her as she was to you!