Wedding Pre-Invitation Cards Help When Choosing Your Venue Based on the Number of Guests

The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis fields this week's wedding questions. Today: If you’re basing your wedding venue on the number of guests, can you send a pre-invite instead of “Save the Date” cards?

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Dear Valley bride: I love the idea and I’m sure your family and friends will be delighted; however, the process seems a bit complicated, no? Many bridal couples send out “Save the Date” cards so friends and families can hold the date — but these “pre‑invitations” don’t usually require a response from the guest. To accomplish your goal, you should probably nix the “Save the Date” cards altogether and use your “pre‑invitation” cards instead. But I’d recommend using different verbiage; try adding some instructions (keep it simple) about what you’re doing. [Editor’s note: How about: “Since we’re choosing our venue based on your availability — and to ensure that as many of our loved ones as possible can attend this joyous occasion — please include your prompt R.S.V.P. with this card.”] That way, your guests will understand that you’re not just using the typical “A” and “B” list; you’re establishing the number of your guests and afterwards picking the venue. Good luck!

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Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride, hubby-to-be, or even a wedding guest, The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all of your wedding-related questions.

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