The Wedding Do Not Play List
A bride-to-be is horrified when the deejay at her friend’s wedding plays the wrong song; how can she make sure her own deejay doesn’t stray?
Last week, we introduced a bride whose religion-specific playlist irked her mother-in-law. This week, find out how to handle a deejay who questions your musical taste.
A Hudson Valley bride asks: “I recently attended the wedding of a close friend. It was obvious that she and her husband had spent countless hours working on the details that made the wedding as perfect as it was. Unfortunately, there was one major glitch — one that I want to make sure to avoid at our wedding. For whatever reason, when the couple got ready for the first dance, the emcee ignored their suggestion for “their song” and played one he liked better. It wouldn’t have been so terrible... except that the song he picked was the one that my friend and her (now-deceased) ex-husband danced to at their wedding. My friend burst into tears and no one — not even her new hubby — knew why. I’m sure my fiancé and I have songs that we wouldn’t want played at our wedding. How do we make sure this doesn’t happen?”
(Our answer on next page)
The Wedding Guru answers: This one’s easy: you need to put together a “Do Not Play” list for your emcee or deejay. Most music ensembles have an already-set list of popular songs to play throughout the event. Go over the list and cross out the offending songs, as well as any that you simply don’t like. If they have no playlist, make your own and explain clearly that those songs are not to be played. Conversely, if you have songs that you want to hear, discuss them with the folks providing your music to make sure that it’s not a problem.
As for the deejay or emcee who doesn’t respect your wishes? Readers, I’ll leave that advice up to you: What would you do? Write your answers in the box below.