Is the Coed Bachelor/Bachelorette Party the New Wedding Trend?

A couple wants to opt out of the bachelor and bachelorette parties, but their friends have other ideas

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The creativity of today’s bridal couples is simply delightful. They continue to come up with really interesting ways to “reform” old traditions. This couple is just one example.

A Hudson Valley bride asks: “Neither my fiancé nor I want a bachelor or bachelorette party. However, my friends really want to do something for us. One of the things that my best friend suggested was a combination bachelor and bachelorette party. Do you think that’s okay? Should I agree?”

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The Wedding Guru answers: You obviously have some lovely friends. I would hate to see you disappoint them by not allowing them to throw you some sort of party. Today, many couples are doing coed showers. Combining a bachelor and bachelorette party is absolutely acceptable, too. If you want to make sure that it’s “civilized” without strippers or heavy drinking, tell your friends that you’d prefer a small dinner party that doesn’t have to be an extravaganza, an afternoon picnic with fun-filled games, or brunch — whatever sounds good to you and to your friends.

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