Pulling Off the Double Wedding
Challenges arise as two sisters plan their double wedding
I ’ve always felt that a double wedding required the highest degree of compromise. When people are willing to give up some of their own ideas and wishes for the “greater good,” such a wedding can be fabulously joyful. Make no mistake; a double wedding is not easy to pull off.
A Hudson Valley Bride asks: “My sister and I have always dreamed of having a double wedding. Now that we’ve each found our soul mates, our dream can become a reality. If I do say so myself, we’ve always been great about compromising, but we hope you can help with a few sticking points. My sister thinks we should mail separate invitations, each doing our own. I think we should save the money and combine them into one, but I don’t know how to do that. We also both want our dad to walk us down the aisle; does he leave one of us and then run back to get the other? Help!”
(Our answer on next page)
The Wedding Guru says: I vote with you and suggest that you save your money and do a joint invitation. One of the best ways to do so is to make the paper a trifold. On the middle panel you can put all the logistics, such as “where” and “when.” Then, each of you can use one of the two side panels. (This only works if those sharing a double wedding are sisters. If they aren’t, separate invitations are appropriate.)
As for your dad: instead of running up and down the aisle, he can walk both of you down, one on each arm. If your father is going to “give you away,” the older of the two is given away first.