Wedding Attendants: Groom Wants Bride to Include His Sisters as Bridesmaids
A groom-to-be insists his bride include his three sisters as bridesmaids — even though it’ll cost her family extra (and she doesn’t know them). What should she do?
Some brides and grooms are fortunate in that when they marry, they gain new family. Your wedding is a wonderful place to set the tone for your relationships with the members of your new, extended family. Still, there can be complications...
Dear Wedding Guru: “My daughter’s fiancé wants his three sisters to be her bridesmaids. Neither I nor my daughter knows any of them, so including them as attendants would be awkward and an additional expense that we’re not willing to pay! What should we do?”
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The Wedding Guru says: Etiquette offers a guide to good behavior, but it is by no means a law or written in stone. What should be a “law” is how you and your daughter behave toward her future husband’s family! Your wedding is a wonderful place for you to show that, when you marry, there’s no such thing as “his family” and “your family.”
That being said, I truly believe that your daughter should include her future sisters-in-law. Yes, that will add to the budget — the bride and bride’s family are responsible for bridesmaids’ flowers and local accommodations. However, undoubtedly this is an expense that would be very well worth it!
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