One Marriage, Two Weddings: What to Do When You’re Invited to Two Weddings for the Same Bride and Groom
When a bride and groom practice two different religions, sometimes they’ll have two different weddings. Here’s what to do if you’re a guest of both
The wedding traditions of other people are often strange to us, but attending such ceremonies is a wonderful way to open our eyes to the many different customs and rituals out there. That said...
Dear Wedding Guru: “I’ve been invited to two weddings... for the same couple. The bride is of one religion and the groom another. In lieu of having two officiants at the ceremony, they opted to have two ceremonies in two different places — one in the morning and one in the evening. (A reception follows the second wedding.) I’ve never been in this position before — do I attend both ceremonies? Can I assume that there’s something to eat after the morning ceremony, or will we need to fend for ourselves for lunch?”
(Our answer on next page)
The Wedding Guru says: This is definitely a question for the bride or groom — don’t be bashful. Direct your questions to the bridal couple, a family member, or one of their friends who’s in charge of the schedule and the arrangements. Because the ceremonies are about the couple, you want to do what best suits them... even though you may not get to choose the ceremony that you prefer to attend. (And yes... you must attend both!)