Wedding Etiquette: Calling Off the Wedding Means Returning the Gifts

A guest is surprised to learn that her best friend canceled her wedding — and she’s not retuning the gifts

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The Wedding Guru answers: Your friend seems oblivious to the rules of proper etiquette (or just plain common sense), since she should return whatever gifts are unused. You’re right to be annoyed, but at this point I think it’s obvious what she’s decided to do. Especially because she’s a long-standing friend of yours, I see no reason why you shouldn’t ask her outright whether she’s planning to return the gifts. If your question loses you the friendship, then perhaps she is not the friend that she used to be!

Calling off a wedding is emotionally traumatic, but that doesn’t give the couple the right to behave poorly. There’s a wrong way and a right way to do it — check out’s article “Canceling Your Wedding... What to Do and How to Protect Yourself” for the right way!

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Congratulations — you're involved in a wedding! Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride or hubby-to-be, an attendant or a guest, Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all your need-to-know questions about your nuptials.

Judy Lewis is the founder of, the one-stop resource for services and products, promotions and specials, a Regional Bridal Show schedule, Wed Shop, and links to money-saving and wedding-related Web sites. In her spare time, Judy loves to compose poetry and create collages. She currently resides in Kingston with her husband and business partner, Jon.



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