Wedding Etiquette: Calling Off the Wedding Means Returning the Gifts

A guest is surprised to learn that her best friend canceled her wedding — and she’s not retuning the gifts



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It amazes me how poorly people behave sometimes! Maybe that’s one of the reasons why there are rules of etiquette — but often, common sense is all that’s needed.

A wedding guest asks: “I was excited to hear that my best friend of many years was getting married. It’s her first time being the bride and I was more than happy to give her two lovely shower gifts, as well as a wedding gift (sent directly to her home). So I was sad to hear that the wedding had been canceled. I found out from her wedding planner, who sent an e-mail to each of the guests. I thought for sure that my friend would return the wedding and shower gifts. I’ve spoken to her several times since the cancellation, but she’s never mentioned the gifts or if she’s returning them. How can I let her know that I really expect her to give back my gifts? Am I sacrificing a long-standing relationship here? Isn’t it the right thing to do?”

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Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride, hubby-to-be, or even a wedding guest, The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all of your wedding-related questions.

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